Resources
Resource &
Recommendation Hub
A place where I share the books, podcasts, and multimedia that have influenced my work and personal growth.
Books
Books that have shaped my clinical work and my own growth.
Terry Real “The New Rules of Marriage”
Why I recommend it
This is one of the clearest, most useful relationship books I know. Terry Real lays out the difference between being relational and being self-protective, and he doesn’t let you hide behind fancy excuses. If you want closeness, respect, passion, and real partnership, this book shows you what actually gets in the way.
Key takeaways
- How to identify and stop using losing strategies that damage connection.
- The role of Core Negative Images in keeping couples stuck.
- Why childhood adaptations often become adult relationship liabilities.
- Practical ways to become more relational, honest, and loving.
How it has impacted me
This book has shaped me both personally and professionally. It has helped me in my own marriage, and it continues to influence how I work with couples trying to stop fighting the same dumb fight over and over again.