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Withdrawal-The Fifth Losing Strategy
Welcome to the culmination of our journey through the 5 Losing Strategies of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Today, we confront the fifth and final losing strategy: 'Withdrawal.' Withdrawal is the silent killer that plagues relationships and often leads to deeper...
The Fourth Losing Strategy: Retaliation
In this post we will address the fourth losing strategy in getting what you want from your relationship, Retaliation, and how finding the right Queens Couples Therapist can help you have a better relationship. Retaliation Defined Retaliation' is the losing strategy...
The Losing Strategy of Retaliation; Marriage Counseling in Queens NY
The Losing Strategy of Retaliation and Marriage Counseling in Queens NY The fourth of the Five Losing Strategies for Getting What You Want in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Retaliation. Lets try to understand why the losing strategy of retaliation often leads to...
The Losing Strategy of Unbridled Self-Expression
Welcome back, fellow travelers, to our voyage through Relationship Life Therapy's (RLT) Five Losing Strategies for Getting What You Want. Lets set sail into the heart of the storm – the tumultuous seas of 'Unbridled Self-Expression.' Here, we'll unravel the...
The Losing Strategy of Control
Welcome back to our exploration of Relational Life Therapy's (RLT) Five Losing Strategies of Getting What You Want. Today, we're delving into the second losing strategy for getting what you want in our series – 'Control.' The need for control can impact the rhythm...
“Being Right” in Relationships; A Losing Game
The Losing Game of "Being Right" in Relationships In the intricate dance of relationships, individuals often find themselves entangled in various strategies to get what they want. One of the most common, yet counterproductive approaches is the pursuit of being right....
Unveiling the Dance of Connection: A Guide to Terry Real’s 5 Losing Strategies in Relationships
Welcome back! Today, we're diving into the intricate world of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and The 5 Losing Strategies of Getting What You Want in relationships, pioneered by the insightful Terry Real. If you're new to this, fret not – we'll be your tour guides...
Connecting in Queens: A Beginner’s Guide to Relational Life Therapy (RLT) in Couples Counseling
In the heart of Queens, NY, couples seeking therapy often discover a transformative journey through Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Imagine Jack and Jill, a couple yearning for connection in a cozy Queens therapy room. Their journey unfolds with the guidance of RLT...
Your First Marriage Counseling Session in Queens NY: A Guide to Preparation
Embarking on your initial visit to a couple's therapist demands preparation. To ensure a successful first session, come ready to delve into the issues prompting your need for marriage counseling in Queens, NY. Arm yourself with specific examples highlighting the...
Transform Your Relationship: Break Free from Reactive Patterns and Cultivate Connection
In the bustling city of Queens, NY, navigating the complexities of personal relationships can be challenging. Many individuals find themselves caught in a cycle of reactivity, struggling to manage their emotions and communicate effectively with their partners. If...
Is Relationship Counseling Right for You? Signs to Consider
Are you at a crossroads in your relationship? Are you and your partner experiencing ongoing challenges, conflicts, or a sense of disconnection? If so, you might be wondering if engaging the services of a couples counselor is the right step for you. In this blog post,...
Desire Discrepancy-What is it and How to Handle it
Managing a relationship with a desire discrepancy, where one partner has a stronger sexual desire than the other can be challenging. It is essential to find ways to bridge the gap and address the issue to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Here are some...
Finding the Best Couples Therapist in Queens, NY-Your Ultimate Guide
Are you and your partner facing challenges that seem insurmountable? Do you find yourselves stuck in patterns of miscommunication and unresolved conflicts? Seeking the help of a skilled couples therapist can provide the guidance and support you need to navigate these...
Couples Counseling using EFT and RLT
What to Expect in Couples Counseling using EFT and RLT: So you've decided to go for couples counseling. Good decision. Even the strongest and most securely attached couples can benefit from working on their relationship. Arguably, the most popular and effective modes...
Reclaiming Intimacy: Seeking Therapy for Porn Addiction and Sexual Addiction in Relationships
Navigating the complex landscape of relationships and intimacy can be challenging. Especially when confronted with the impact of pornography addiction and other forms of sexual addiction. If you find yourself questioning the effects of these addictions on your...
Breaking the Negative Cycle: A Path to Effective Communication in Relationships
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. It forms the foundation of understanding, intimacy, and emotional connection between couples. However, couples often find themselves trapped in a negative cycle where their attempts to communicate their needs, wants,...
Mastering the Five Secrets of Effective Communication: Building Stronger Connections
Effective communication lies at the heart of any healthy relationship. It allows us to connect, understand, and support one another. However, communication can often be challenging, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. To navigate these difficulties and foster...
Transform Your Relationship with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
The Power to Transform Your Relationship with EFT and RLT Are you feeling stuck or unsatisfied in your relationship? Do you long for deeper emotional connection and intimacy with your partner? If so, you're not alone. Many couples face challenges and hurdles along the...
Healing from Childhood Trauma: Rediscovering Your Inner Strength
Life can be an intricate journey, shaped by our experiences and upbringing. Unfortunately, some of us have endured the weight of childhood trauma, which can cast long-lasting shadows on our self-esteem, mental well-being, and overall happiness. However, the good news...
Insights on Porn Addiction: Perspectives from a New York Therapist
As a psychotherapist based in Queens, New York, I have encountered numerous individuals seeking support and guidance in overcoming porn addiction. In this blog post, I would like to share some of my thoughts and insights on this prevalent issue. Please note that the...
Relationship Repair for Infidelity: So You Got Caught Cheating, Now What?
So you got caught cheating. Perhaps, you had an affair and it was discovered. Maybe your spouse found incriminating evidence of your bad behavior. Or you find yourself in a situation where you now need to repair and rebuild your relationship. If this is the case, then...
The Five Losing Strategies for Getting What You Want in a Relationship
Relationships are Hard! There are no ifs, and, nor buts about it! Relationships are challenging and they can be confoundingly hard! When they’re good, they can be really good, but when they’re bad, they can be so, so BAD! As a couples counselor who works with couples...
Help Quitting Porn in New York: Tips from Porn Therapy in Queens | Part 2 of 2
You don’t have to feel ashamed and hopeless about pornography and masturbation. Porn therapy in Queens can help you find the strength to quit. Being human, you have sexual longings and desires. Sexual feelings are part of human physiology, and everyone has them. When...
Help Quitting Porn in New York: Tips from a Queens, NY Counselor | Part 1 of 2
Effective Strategies for Help Quitting Porn in New York What is the first trait that you need to overcome pornography and masturbation? The first thing that you need, that which comes before all else, is Willingness. Now, let's say that you don’t have the willingness...
“We’re Just Not Compatible!” A Marriage Counselor in Queens Shares Why Couple Compatibility Isn’t Important
"We’re Just Not Compatible!" - The Words Every Relationship Therapist Hears As a Marriage Counselor in Queens, New York, I’ve heard couples tell me this so often. What I say back is, “Nobody is!” I truly believe there is no such thing as compatibility. Maybe you'll...
Retrain Your Brain Not to Want Porn and Masturbation: Tips from Porn Addiction Counseling in New York
You don’t have to feel ashamed and hopeless about pornography and masturbation, and you don't have to be afraid of seeking help from Porn Addiction Counseling in New York Being human, you have sexual longings and desires. Sexual feelings are part of human physiology...
Secure Attachment and it’s impact on Couples Counseling in New York
When couples do finally make it into see me for couples counseling I help them to reframe their struggles not as an inherent defect in their partner but rather as a negative cycle that emerges in their relationship as a result of their making ineffective bids for closeness and connection.
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