Effective Strategies for Help Quitting Porn in New York
What is the first trait that you need to overcome pornography and masturbation?
The first thing that you need, that which comes before all else, is Willingness.
Now, let’s say that you don’t have the willingness to stop. In that case, you must develop the willingness to want to stop. In other words, you must want to want to stop. This you must work on acquiring. Sometimes, a person needs to bottom out before he can adequately develop the willingness to stop using porn and masturbation.
Let’s hope that you do not need to invoke this method!
You might say to yourself, “…but I have the willingness to stop and it hasn’t helped me to quit porn and masturbation so far?!”
That’s because the willingness to stop is only half the battle. A person needs not only the willingness to stop using porn and masturbation but he or she also needs to learn how to go about getting support or help to quit porn in New York or wherever you may be.
Once you have developed the willingness to stop, only at that point can you and should you start working on how to do it. But again, the first step is to acquire the willingness to stop. Anybody who succeeds in life, anyone who rises to the top, only does so because they want it more than the next guy. As the old summer camp cheer goes, “You’ve gotta want it to win it and we want it more!” Only if you really want it will you be disciplined enough to figure out how to do it and stick with it!
Getting Support with Stopping Masturbation and Help Quitting Porn in New York
Now, if you want to know how to quit using porn and masturbation once you have acquired the willingness to do it, you’ll have to understand that it’s not going to be easy!
Nothing that’s worth doing is going to be easy. It’s going to take work, it’s going to take focus, it’s going to take grit! It’s going to require endurance. Endurance of pain and suffering in the process leading up to successful transformation from someone who uses porn and masturbation to deal with life to someone who can deal with life on life’s terms without having to supplement with porn and masturbation.
That’s right! It’s not going to be easy! As the saying goes, there are no free rides!
Feeling shame for Compulsive Masturbation and Needing Help Quitting Porn in New York?
Now, you don’t have to get all down on yourself and blame yourself for being in this position. That’s only going to undermine your ability to remain focused with your eyes on the prize of overcoming porn and masturbation. Don’t beat yourself up for being someone who uses pornography and partakes in compulsive masturbation in New York. No! You didn’t do this to yourself on purpose! You didn’t willingly choose to make porn and masturbation a habit!
No, slowly, over time, porn and masturbation became a method that worked for you. It felt good. It was appealing. You fell into it and it worked for you. Whether it was to help soothe yourself, to pass the time, to escape from reality, or for some other reason, you didn’t knowingly choose to develop this porn and masturbation habit.
Nobody ever said, “I would like to become dependent on using porn and masturbation to help me through the tough times and rough patches.” However, when porn and masturbation are used regularly over the course of many days, weeks, months, or years, then it insidiously becomes a habit that is quite difficult to overcome!
Asking, “Why am I so prone to Compulsive Masturbation?”
Nowadays, the temptation for porn and masturbation is so hard to avoid! It’s practically everywhere you look! On buses, on billboards. All you have to do is just look down at your phone. It’s on the tv shows, it’s on the radio. It’s everywhere you look and everyone has access to it. In addition to how tempting and available it is, nowadays, with the internet living on your phone in your pocket, it can be done anywhere and nobody ever has to know about it!
Therefore, you don’t have to beat yourself up for being someone who uses porn and masturbation as a distraction. You don’t have to do that, because nowadays, it’s nearly impossible to avoid!
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