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At times, we all likely wish we had a playbook for how to handle the biggest problems in our relationships. Wouldn’t it be great if we could be instructed to flip to page 52 to figure out how to resolve issues of infidelity? Or skip to page 118 to find out how to deal...

They say trust is like a mirror - once it's cracked, it can be fixed, but you'll always see the cracks. Now, imagine infidelity as the boulder that smashes right through that mirror. It’s the understatement of the century to say that mending a relationship after such...

Narcissism is a term that pops up everywhere these days—on social media, in therapy discussions, and even as part of casual conversations about relationships.  But what is narcissism in a relationship, and how does it really affect couples?  Whether it's mild...

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: A Path to Healing for Couples At Queens Relationship Counseling LCSW, PLLC, we understand that rebuilding trust after infidelity is one of the most challenging journeys a couple can face. When a betrayal of trust occurs, it can feel...

Understanding Emotional Needs in Marital Relationships In our relationships, we often find that our emotional needs from our spouse differ significantly from those we have for others. While we can usually accept criticism and advice—often even unsolicited—from friends...

Why Do Couples Fight? Why is it that couples fight? And why is it so hard for some couples to resolve issues, see eye to eye, and live in peace and harmony with one another? One reason among many may be that a dynamic exists within the couple which Relational Life...

A COMMON PATTERN   Jimmy and Jane sit on my couch looking for relationship help. She sits leaning away from him. A gap resides between them both physically and emotionally. She complains that Jimmy just doesn’t seem to care. He’s not there for her in the way that...

Welcome to the culmination of our journey through the 5 Losing Strategies of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Today, we confront the fifth and final losing strategy: 'Withdrawal.' Withdrawal is the silent killer that plagues relationships and often leads to deeper...

Relationships, particularly our romantic relationships, can be a source of immense joy, connection, and comfort.  Yet every couple faces challenges in the way they communicate, and certain reactions to those challenges—like retaliation—can create unnecessary...

The Losing Strategy of Retaliation and Marriage Counseling in Queens NY The fourth of the Five Losing Strategies for Getting What You Want in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Retaliation. Lets try to understand why the losing strategy of retaliation often leads to...

If you’ve ever heard someone say, “I just needed to vent,” and then witnessed them unload in detail about their frustrations with no filters attached, you’ve likely experienced unbridled self-expression in action. It might look authentic, but it often causes more harm...

Welcome back to our exploration of Relational Life Therapy's (RLT) Five Losing Strategies of Getting What You Want. Today, we're delving into the second losing strategy for getting what you want in our series –  'Control.'  The need for control can impact the rhythm...

The Losing Game of "Being Right" in Relationships In the intricate dance of relationships, individuals often find themselves entangled in various strategies to get what they want. One of the most common, yet counterproductive approaches is the pursuit of being right....

Welcome back! Today, we're diving into the intricate world of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and The 5 Losing Strategies of Getting What You Want in relationships, pioneered by the insightful Terry Real. If you're new to this, fret not – we'll be your tour guides...

Do you feel like your relationship is in a never-ending game of tug-of-war? If so, you’re not alone. Many couples find themselves in this sticky situation, and here in the vibrant, hectic life of Queens, NY, it’s no different. The good news is that, if you’re in...

Embarking on your initial visit to a couple's therapist demands preparation. To ensure a successful first session, come ready to delve into the issues prompting your need for marriage counseling in Queens, NY. Arm yourself with specific examples highlighting the...

In the bustling city of Queens, NY, navigating the complexities of personal relationships can be challenging. Many individuals find themselves caught in a cycle of reactivity, struggling to manage their emotions and communicate effectively with their partners. If...

Managing a relationship with a desire discrepancy, where one partner has a stronger sexual desire than the other can be challenging. It is essential to find ways to bridge the gap and address the issue to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Here are some...

Are you and your partner facing challenges that seem insurmountable? Do you find yourselves stuck in patterns of miscommunication and unresolved conflicts? Seeking the help of a skilled couples therapist can provide the guidance and support you need to navigate these...

What to Expect in Couples Counseling using EFT and RLT: So you've decided to go for couples counseling. Good decision. Even the strongest and most securely attached couples can benefit from working on their relationship. Arguably, the most popular and effective modes...

Navigating the complex landscape of relationships and intimacy can be challenging. Especially when confronted with the impact of pornography addiction and other forms of sexual addiction. If you find yourself questioning the effects of these addictions on your...

The Power to Transform Your Relationship with EFT and RLT Are you feeling stuck or unsatisfied in your relationship? Do you long for deeper emotional connection and intimacy with your partner? If so, you're not alone. Many couples face challenges and hurdles along the...

As a psychotherapist based in Queens, New York, I have encountered numerous individuals seeking support and guidance in overcoming porn addiction. In this blog post, I would like to share some of my thoughts and insights on this prevalent issue. Please note that the...

Relationships are Hard! There are no ifs, and, nor buts about it! Relationships are challenging and they can be confoundingly hard! When they’re good, they can be really good, but when they’re bad, they can be so, so BAD! As a couples counselor who works with couples...

You don’t have to feel ashamed and hopeless about pornography and masturbation. Porn therapy in Queens can help you find the strength to quit. Being human, you have sexual longings and desires. Sexual feelings are part of human physiology, and everyone has them. When...

Effective Strategies for Help Quitting Porn in New York What is the first trait that you need to overcome pornography and masturbation? The first thing that you need, that which comes before all else, is Willingness.  Now, let's say that you don’t have the willingness...

You don’t have to feel ashamed and hopeless about pornography and masturbation, and you don't have to be afraid of seeking help from Porn Addiction Counseling in New York Being human, you have sexual longings and desires. Sexual feelings are part of human physiology...